Actor R Madhavan has long been admired not only for his versatile performances on screen but also for the enduring relationship he shares with his wife, Sarita Birje. As the couple celebrates 27 years of marriage, Madhavan’s reflections on love, loyalty and partnership continue to resonate with fans.
Over the years, the actor has often been asked about the secret behind his stable and successful marriage, particularly while working in an industry known for its glamour and constant scrutiny. Looking back on his journey, Madhavan once revealed that remaining faithful was never a difficult choice for him.
Speaking about navigating a career that has seen him work alongside some of the most admired actresses in the industry, the actor credited his upbringing and family values for keeping him grounded.
“I think it’s the easy way out to remain loyal. There are other aspects of my life that I need to put my energies in. Also, I think to be loyal is a family trait,” he had said.
The actor further reflected on his personality and the practical approach he takes toward relationships. Describing himself as a simple middle-class man despite his stardom, Madhavan explained that family has always taken precedence in his life.
“At the end of the day, I am that darpok Madrasi middle-class man and while I am extremely attracted to attractive girls, at the end of the day, I balance off going back home and cuddling my wife as opposed to giving an excuse on why I am not there,” he shared.
Madhavan was equally generous in his praise for Sarita, whom he described as the strongest pillar of support in his life. The actor credited much of his personal and professional success to her unwavering presence and understanding.
“My wife Sarita. She understands me completely, keeps me totally grounded and is also my complete foil who takes care of my son, my parents and my finances. She gives me the complete freedom that I so desire to be an effective actor. She is used to my temper and follies and is fearless in telling me how good or bad I am,” he said.
The actor went on to acknowledge the countless responsibilities Sarita shoulders for the family, often without seeking recognition.
“She never actually expresses how hard she works for me and for the sake of the family and never expects credit for it. She is more of a child to my parents than I am and they adore her. I am very lucky to have her in my life,” he added.
Apart from mutual respect and understanding, Madhavan also highlighted the importance of transparency in building trust. He revealed that from the very beginning of their relationship, his mobile phones and personal accounts were always accessible to Sarita, helping foster openness between them.
The actor also recalled a valuable piece of advice he received from acclaimed filmmaker Mani Ratnam, which has stayed with him over the years.
“When there is something going good with a relationship, don’t keep testing it to see how much she loves you. Just let it be. Sometimes testing is the thing that spoils everything,” Mani Ratnam had advised him.
Through honesty, mutual respect and unwavering support, Madhavan and Sarita have built a relationship that has stood the test of time. As they mark 27 years together, the actor’s reflections offer a glimpse into the values that have helped keep his personal life as strong and successful as his celebrated career.